Note to myself: What to do if simultaneous requirements and deadline comes?

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When we were a child, life seems so easy and joyful since we’re not yet experiencing real hardships in order to survive. I remember when I was a child aside from being a grade school student; all I have to worry was on how could I attain more playing time with my friends. As time passed by, I’ve had noticed that every year for me as a student seems like harder and harder from Grade 1 to Grade 2 and up to now that I am taking my Bachelor’s Degree. The excitement to play with my friends became a challenge on how could I retain all vital information with regards to our lesson, how could I contribute to our group project and how could I review specific topic on a short period of time. Nonetheless, I know that every task that we’re experiencing whether it was related to our studies or work or even personal life, there’s still something to be grateful about. On this Blog, let me share to you some things that help me to continue and keep me walking on my everyday agenda:

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Understand that you have weaknesses and limitations

Admitting your weaknesses and limitations seems like accepting that you are not capable of more superior things, right? But let us examine this point as a realization that you are not a superhuman to finish simultaneous things at a time. Learn to determine your flaws and try to improve your perspective towards your inferiorities. With this, you are trying to hit two birds using one stone because if you are aware to your dependencies and you are able to give solutions to it, you are able to solve and comply to the requirements and deadlines as well.






Prioritize what is necessary

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Set on your mind this thing: “First things first”. Give effort and strength to the things that are nearing. Many people have been experiencing frustrations and cramming because they do not how to finish their assignments and tasks. What’s the reason and why they are not able to finish their duties? The answer is because they do not know where and how to start. As an individual, we have different tasks given to us by people. The question is, are you aware of your main responsibility? For example, if you are a mother and you need to prepare breakfast for your child, what kind of food are you going to prepare? It is very important to know your priorities.




Seek example from others and imitate their excellence

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I will share to you how do I managed to see things attainable even if there’s a lot of duties and problems dragging me. There’s a lot of inspiring people that I had met on my years of existence and those people have their own story as they’ve shared. They’ve had experienced ups and downs in life just like me but they are able to prevail in their own respective way. I’m not referring to the wealth or businesses but it’s more than that. The peace and excellence in their own expertise gave an inspiration to continue despite hardships and frustrations on many deadlines. If they can, also I can! If they are able to endure and to comply on some requirements in order for them to get more knowledge, I’m also glad to experience hardship as long as I know that it will contribute to my intellect and endurance.



This short Blog is just a reminder for us that we are not alone who experiencing hardships, especially when you have tasks to do and you need to comply promptly. First, be reminded that you are not a superhuman and you have limitations as well. Secondly, set your priorities and finish them one by one. Lastly, there are some people who stand on your position but they actually managed to succeed. The question is are you willing to move forward or are you done on moving?


God bless every one :)

Being a first time Dad

Me and my wife have been married for almost 2 years now. Married life is very different from a life experienced by single men/women. There are some adjustments to make in order for you and your spouse to have a harmonious relationship. At first, we planned to have a baby a year after our wedding but God moved in a very timely way. We found out that my wife was pregnant 3 months after our wedding day. Although her pregnancy surprised us, we were both happy about this. During her 1st trimester, we experienced few challenges like delayed heartbeat of our baby and having nausea for my wife. With this, our Lord still proved His greatness to us. He blessed us with a healthy and bouncing baby boy on May 05, 2018. Our son, Paul Darrem or simply "Popoy" became our source of inspiration and joy. Hence, there were still some challenges and adjustments I had made because of this. I will share to you through this blog some of my experiences being a first time dad:





Feeding moment

He is already taking solid food like fruits, biscuits and oatmeal but his milk was still important for his developing body together will his vitamins. As of now, we noticed that he became choosy and showing rejection in drinking his milk. At times, he pushed-off his milk as his refusal and always play the food that we gave to him.














Controlling his tantrums

He also showing some kinds of mood swing. There were times that he showed joyful mood but there were some situation that he showed being annoyed as well. With this attitude, we noticed that he became physically active like rolling over on the bed, slapping our faces as we carry him and blurry murmur that he always do. These things are representation of his annoyance.








Fixing his things

We are aware that baby's immune system was not yet fully developed that's why we are extra careful on preparing his things. The struggle of preparing his things was also felt when we have to tour him on mall or we have to bring him to his pediatrician. His bottles, milk and toys have to be prepared in order for him to be comfortable.










Night schedule
His sleeping schedule was a factor also. Although on Popoy's case, he has a good sleep habit at night unless he felt hunger or his diaper was full. Hence, as parents we have a responsibility to assist him every time. Even we have to work or go to school early in the morning, our priority was to give our son a safe and comfortable life.













Visit to his Pediatrician

As what I've mentioned on fixing his things. Going to his pediatrician is a challenge for us also. Good thing that the attitude of Popoy is not like other babies who cry always or look for toys to play, he is silent and observant every time we are outside. He act well when we are on his pediatrician or even outside our house.

Bathing time

He loves to take a bath. We've noticed ever since that he felt an excitement every time we have to wash his body. I think Popoy would become a good swimmer someday.












Change of clothes and diapers

This is our everyday scenario, he will try to escape through his movements in order for him to avoid us. Although he is not able to walk yet, changing his diaper is a quest for us to be solved. As well as wearing him his clothes. Nonetheless, we love to do this not only because he is our son but we love the way he tried to insist his wants.










Worry during sickness

The hardest part of being a father and a parent is to see your child suffering because of sickness. There's a time that Popoy experienced unnecessary vomiting and we do not know what to do. We were not able to sleep well that night because we observe him as he sleep. After that we brought him to the clinic for some check-up.









There's a lot of duties to make once you became a father. Selfless mindset and understanding heart should prevail. Aside from being a husband, I am also a father and that's my main motivation on continuing my goals. Inspiration from them boosts my incitement to pursue my dreams not only for me but for my family as well.

5 Tips to have a healthy relationship with others

"Conflicts are inevitable". This phrase reminds us that conflicts are everywhere and it is unavoidable. Actually in society, there's what we call Conflict Theory which was suggested by well known philosopher, economist and sociologist, Karl Marx. The Conflict theory focuses on the view that it is necessary for the social classes to have conflicts in order to experience a well and functioning society. Hence, this thing will bring misunderstanding and misconception with the true meaning of Peace and Unity. Even though in family, which was considered as "Basic unit of society" and based on Webster Dictionary, it was defined as a group of people united by certain convictions or a common affiliation. I believe that the problem within the society today were just a result of the feud which was originally came from every family. We can see dispute within its member starting from the husband and wife up to the point that it can be seen on their children's behavior as well. Some problems like Poverty, Drug addiction and Crimes were usually pointing to the interconnected effect of relationship problems.

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In the Bible, the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.” (Genesis 2:18). With this, we can see that relationship was necessary for a man to live with peace and contentment, it shows also that it is a prerequisite to look for a companion to be with. Man was created to have an associate, just like the old proverb said "No man is an island" whether it is a romantic or friendly relationship, everyone of us cannot live without any comrade. Here are some tips to consider to have a healthy relationship with others:





1. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly


Every person has their own ego and it was somehow offending if that pride was triggered through criticism. Let us elaborate "Criticism" as we see what are its types and importance, there are two kinds of criticism-- The Constructive criticism and Destructive criticism.

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Destructive criticism makes someone feels down and discouraged, the motive of DC (Destructive criticism) is to ruin and damage someone or something that has been built. There are many causes for a person to have this kind of mindset like envy, anger or maybe jealousy. Nonetheless, this kind of attitude has to be avoided in order to have a healthy relationship with others. Hence, Constructive Criticism was different from Destructive Criticism. CC (Constructive Criticism) was imposed for the improvement and we can say that its main drive is the "Concern"for someone. This is the main point of criticizing constructively: You correct the behavior or work of someone because you love or you care for that person. There are times that we had to criticize someone but let us be reminded that we have to do it with sensitivity and concern in order to maintain and build a strong relationship with them.




2. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it

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As humans, mistakes are always been done especially when you are unaware of something. This tip will give us a thought that we have to be reminded that we are not perfect and there are times that we will commit mistake to others. One of the reason why a person avoid someone is because he was offended by him/her. How many relationships have ended because no one admitted that they were wrong? One of the hardest word to say especially when you have done something wrong is the word "Sorry", and saying this word becomes harder and harder to express as time goes by. There's an English idiom that says "Strike while the iron is hot" and its meaning was more valuable than understanding it word per word. This idiom will remind us that we have to say sorry and admit that you are wrong rather than live in pride and guilt. We have to be more sensitive on the actions that we are doing and be ready to admit the mistakes we have done in order to keep the good relationship with others.




3. Never yell at someone when you are angry

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There's no one who can control his/her own temper especially when you are in an unanticipated situation. Based on Merriam-Webster Dictionary, anger is a strong feeling of displeasure and usually of antagonism. As we experience anger, there are some things and expressions that we do without our full control as we express this what we call displeasure feeling. And this is the danger if anger comes to you, there are some situations that you cannot control like appropriate decision-making or how will you react on current circumstance you are experiencing. Along with this is the unnecessary action and disrespectful manners we usually show to someone like reprehension and yelling. This discourteous approach leads to spoilage of relationships and gap between you and your companion.  Former U.S President Thomas Jefferson once said "When angry count to ten before you speak. If very angry, count to one hundred", a helpful tip for those who are experiencing constant irritation. If you are angry to someone, take time to cool your temper and don't act based on your emotion only. There are many cases of ruined lives because of reckless actions caused by anger. Maybe now you are angry but as time pass-by you will suddenly notice that your temper will slow. With this, keep always in mind that there are more positive activities to make when someone or something tests your character. Always prioritize to build a peaceful environment and unity within your fellowmen.\


4. Understand that we have different personality

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Everyone is different from one another and no one is exactly the same with others (even identical twins) in terms of physical and behavioural aspect. For example, there is what we call introvert and extrovert character which was conforming to the behavioural action of a man in his daily living. There are some reasons why do you have your own kind of attitude; it may be genetic or maybe affected by the environment you belonged. Nonetheless, the summary point is that every person around you has their own personality that may offend or affect your preferences. Even to the person that is really close to you has his/her own attitude that upsets you or even your family member. With regards to this situation, acceptance was really important in order for us to understand others with their personalities and characters. And once you understand the personality of others, it is easy for you to react accordingly and you may lessen the agony caused by conflict with others.

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5. Try to complement someone as encouragement to them

Encouragement was really a powerful boosts for a person who is experiencing stress and trouble. This reinforcement may be come from the complements given by our love ones and friends. Personally, I find this little thing as empowerment especially when I’m struggling with problems on assignments and researches. There's a lot of stress that some tasks bring so it is hard for me especially when I have to pass some requirements within a short period of time. Encouragement from others serves to me as a drive especially when it came from my family and friends. That is why I encourage you to commend someone or something that is worthy and appreciate them with kind words because you don’t even know that maybe that person is struggling right now. This tip also reminded us to be more sensitive with words we are using with others. Nevertheless, we all have to be more appreciative to the people around us, they may be your family, friends, classmates or special someone. Give people a positive responds or even be the one who initiate a worthwhile conversation.




These are the basics on having a good relationship with others. Again, good relationship with others is a complementary thing that the persons involved must determine. It's a two-way process and cannot be done by one person only. As a summary, 1. If you have to criticize, do it lovingly, 2. When you have done something wrong, be ready to admit it, 3. Never yell at someone when you are angry, 4. Understand that we have different personality, and lastly, 5. Try to complement someone as encouragement to them.

God bless everyone :)